I published this link Why Woman Still Can't Have It All on my facebook page a few months back, but was looking through articles and re-read it again last night. It is quite interesting and there are a lot of good points, some I agree with and some I disagree with. One of the most challenging pieces of the parenting puzzle for me as with many other moms has been overcoming mom guilt. I always knew that I wanted to be a working mom, and am proud that I am. My job is demanding, and keeps me away from John and Jack more then I would like. Yet, I really enjoy what I do and I know through my hard work I am contributing to our family and being a positive role model for our son. I do my best to have a positive attitude towards the balance which sometimes can be difficult when you have the struggle of wanting to be everywhere and do everything for all parts of your life. The question always will remain how do you balance everything and get over "mom guilt"? For me I feel like I am constantly in motion, yet surprisingly I find myself more efficient and productive as a professional because my time spent working is just that. One of my good friends said to me when I was pregnant "Work is now a means to provide the best life for my daughter, I worked hard to get my education to do so, and I am lucky enough to enjoy what I do...but in the end it is just work to be able to get home to my family." The second I pick up Jack from daycare it is his time, and the focus is entirely on our family. The time we spend together is quality time. I am privileged to be friends with some amazing woman that do "Do it all, and have it all". The point to be made is that it is not easy....it is really hard, really tiring, but amazing. I believe the balance is also a continuous work in progress. At the end of the day it is about embracing, appreciating, and living in the moment with your family when you are together. I believe you can have it all, as long as you remember the most important thing is your family, and nothing will get in the way of ensuring that your family piece of the puzzle comes first. What I have learned over the past year as I have worked to balance both is that your attitude towards the situation is what will make you or break you (and an awesome spouse). An great company also helps the situation, which I am lucky to work for. It's also in my opinion being realistic about the balance. What you can't do is everything perfectly, but you can do the absolute best you can.
Now with all of this said I edit this post sitting in an airport ready to head out on a three day business trip. I forgot my heels and my phone charger as I rushed out the door this morning. I want nothing more to be home showing Jack my best dance moves in the kitchen while he eats his pancakes, or be cuddled up with John on the couch tonight with a glass of wine. I will admit to the reality that it is so hard to leave my baby and my man. Yet, I am in an airport and I have work to do and if I am going to be away I am going to make the best of it as a professional and kick some butt. So to all my fellow moms that are heading to work or out of town tonight, tomorrow, or whenever on a business trip I know what you are feeling but as you head out just remember you are awesome at it all and an inspiration for your babies!
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